Moderation

As a codependent, when you experience and express your physical, thinking, feeling, and behavior reality,you are either immature and out of control or overmature and extremely controlling. This symptom is sometimes referred to as the either/or syndrome or the all-or-nothing approach to life. It is both a symptom in itself and a characteristic of each of the other four symptoms.

Symptom	One Extreme	The Other Extreme
Self-Esteem	Less Than	Better Than
Boundaries	Too Vulnerable	Invulnerable
Reality	Rebellious / Bad	Perfect / Good
Self Care	Too Dependent	Anti Dependent / Needless Wantless
Moderation	Immature / Chaotic	Overmature / Controlling